The Apostle Paul tells us, “Love is patient.” This statement leads me to believe the man was married! I have heard that he was so and would imagine this to absolutely be the case because there is no training ground for patience like marriage. Nothing teaches you the many facets of love and need for patience quite like the covenant of marriage. When you live with someone there is ample opportunity, on a very regular basis, to be a patient person.
Marriage brings two lives together as one. When we consider what constitutes patience it’s rather obvious the need for such in a situation where two individual people become one person. Patience, in its most basic definition, is the recognition of another person’s free will. Patience is to care, respect and honor someone for the choices they make even if they are different from our own. (Cue the wedding march) When you say “I do” you are saying “we will” and, in the process, die to the idea that your life is your own. There is no independence from your spouse and no right of self determination independent from the input of the person upon whose finger you placed a ring. Thus the absolute necessity of grace and love expressed through patience within any healthy marriage.
PICKING UP YOUR SOCKS FOR LOVE
Picking up your socks from the bedroom isn’t floor really about cleaning as much as it is about patience; a clean room and tidy house is how your wife wants to live her life and when you participate in her desire for a cleanliness, which far exceeds what you find acceptable, you demonstrate patience. Sleeping late on Saturday isn’t as much about sleep as it is about autonomy and when you allow your husband do so without nagging, complaining or making noise to wake him, you are demonstrating love through patience.
Anytime we die to our own desires in order to accommodate those of our spouse, we are demonstrating love through patience. Have you ever thought of love and patience in these terms? What ways might you respect, honor and affirm your spouse in the choices he or she makes which might not be the those you would make for yourself?
There are the “big ticket” items which husband and wife must make together. Where we live, how we spend money and how to raise the kids are areas in which disagreement must be navigated and conquered. But, there are many “mountains” which could become “molehills” if we would simply show patience to the one we love more than any other person on earth. Peace in the home is often a product of patient living with one another.
“God please help me to die to self and live in you. May the life I live in this body be one lived by faith in you Jesus. Please help me to love my spouse by being patient with him (her). In Jesus name I pray, amen.”
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