The Supreme Court has ruled that gay marriage is a constitutionally protected right. While those on the side of gay marriage believe such a ruling protects one of their most basic human rights, the “traditional marriage crowd” believes the ruling nothing short of an endorsement of immorality. Who is correct? What really constitutes marriage and who decides the definition of such?
Before we get started, I realize some cite the evidence of polygamy in Scripture as support for additional definitions of Biblical marriage outside the “traditional one.” However, there is never an endorsement of polygamy in Scripture. The only definition of marriage endorsed by Scripture is one man and one woman joined together as one flesh in God. So with this in mind let’s consider what constitutes marriage…
Marriage is either a sacred institution or human construct. The answer to the question completely dictates one’s belief as to whether human beings have the ability to define or redefine the institution. If marriage is sacred then what constitutes such is transcendent and outside of mankind’s ability to define. If marriage is simply a contract or even a covenant entered into by human beings, outside of a transcendent God, then its definition may be continuously altered according to contemporary social ethics.
Unfortunately, it seems a great many of us have come to believe marriage is both a sacred institution and human construct. Once we define marriage as both, we allow the secular minded among us to join with God in defining marriage. In fact, if we believe marriage to be both sacred as well as human in origin, we cannot, from a rational or even moral standpoint, keep humanist and secularist outside of the conversation concerning its defining characteristics. Such an arrangement allows for the facade that marriage is sacred without the trappings of anything which might be considered transcendent. God in affect bows His knee to the wishes, whims and desires of man and his culture.
Marriage is an institution created by God or man. We cannot have it both ways.
Christians believe God created marriage so a man and woman might enjoy companionship with one another and propagate the species. Marriage was and is the method by which a man and woman join their lives together in a holy oneness. This “oneness” is created by God. Two lives mystically become one.
Christians believe marriage is sacred, holy and transcendent. That last word is perhaps the most important to remember. We believe marriage is something instituted by God, outside human input. We can no more change what actually constitutes marriage than we can change what constitutes light or darkness. If the court ruled marriage to be a union between any combination of people or even inanimate objects, it matters not to us, for we hold to what God defined marriage to be since the beginning of the institution itself.
Secularists believe marriage to be a social contract endorsed by governing authorities. Marriage is the method by which two individuals come together for mutual benefit both socially and economically. The “oneness” in this type of marriage is created by the endorsement of secular authorities. However, for believers in Christ secular authorities are never the “final authority.”
The Bible gives a clear definition of God’s thinking when it comes to the subject of marriage. Christians who actually believe God exists will never acquiesce to the demands of cultural or a government at odds with Him. Secular humanists reject Biblical authority and will never submit to a Scripture. So where does this leave us???
I encourage my fellow believers to love everyone unconditionally. There is not one person beyond our ability to love. We are commanded to do so! Nothing changes the truth…not even a Supreme Court decision. There is no need to hate or fear those with whom we disagree. Jesus loves even those who disagree with Him!
I encourage secular humanist and the homosexual community to consider the definition of “marriage” from a Christian point of view. Please consider what it might mean to believe marriage is transcendent and defined by God rather than governmental authority. Perhaps doing so will help you have more reasonable expectations from believers in Christ.
More on Marriage:
- Protecting Your Marriage
- Love and Intimacy in Marriage
- Why Lack of Contentment Destroys Us
- Why He Thinks You’re Beautiful