Have you ever daydreamed about living a different life? Of course to do so leads one to a lot of “grass is greener on the other side” moments. We all have a tendency to romanticize ideas of how life would be different had we made other choices along the way. If we had majored in something different in college or chosen a different profession where would our life be today? We wistfully dream of a more fulfilling life or fantasize about greater financial success we might have enjoyed had we gone “right” instead of “left.” Perhaps it is a love lost you dream about in such moments; the “one who got away” seems to pull your heartstrings to a fantasy of endless marital bliss. There is a time to dream, cast vision and be bold but there is also a time to be content and stay the course. Romance and fantasy must be rightly aligned with God’s plans and purposes for us or a lack of contentment will destroy our life.
Fantasy and romance have their place in life. These two motivators make for a lot of the excitement we feel about relationships enjoyed and adventures lived. But they can also produce very addictive and destructive behavior in our life as well. If you are married and constantly fantasizing about the “one who got away” your adulterous heart is keeping you from your best life with the spouse you actually chose. If you are romanticizing about a career you didn’t choose, you aren’t putting full heart and effort into the one you now have. Your lack of success both in marriage and career could be attributed to divided loyalty and half hearted effort. Too often we blame poor choices and bad planning when in reality it is a lack of commitment to the choices and plans we have made which make our life less than God intends it to be!
I see people all the time who are frustrated with their current life and have allowed wanderlust to lead them to consider radical changes which, in their mind, promise happiness and eternal bliss but in reality offer only frustration and failure. A new spouse might bring the infatuation and excitement of something new (for a time) but in the end always brings with it the challenge of navigating life with another human being who has their own thoughts, ideas and dreams. Meshing and melding two lives always requires faith, work, effort, prayer and sacrifice; a new face on the pillow next to you won’t eliminate the need for such things. A new job may be a great choice but before you ditch one career for another you should know this; any career you choose will require great effort, sacrifice, discipline and constancy in order for success to be achieved. No matter the job, there will be days when you dread the work and drudgery required to realize some of your goals.
Fantasy and romance drive us to great pursuits and success but if unchecked they can lead to devastating consequences. These powerful, God given devices MUST be submitted to God if they are to rightly motivate us to happiness and achievement. Make sure your passions are submitted to Him! And when you do have that God given destination in mind, enjoy the excitement and euphoria which fantasy and romance can add life’s greatest moments!