How many of you are doing everything you can to protect your marriage? Unfortunately in our culture the institution of marriage is itself often attacked – especially the idea of marriage as Christians define it. Marriage has lost much of the sacred and holy that the Scriptures ascribe to it. This unrighteous influence has even left many Christians struggling to honor and “live” marriage as the Scriptures teach us to do so.
Satan loves nothing more than to create problems in a Christian marriage. It is one of the the easiest ways to damage the witness of two believers in Christ. So how can we eliminate some of his greatest weapons against our marriage and witness for Christ?
The following are some ways Christians can protect their marriage and witness for Christ:
- Out Technology In It’s Proper Place – There are so many technological “toys” and “tools” that can distract and take our attention away from our spouse. Television, computers and smart phones can easily become an unhealthy focus of our attention to the detriment of our marriage. How many times have you stopped and looked up to realize that you and your spouse are both looking into the face of a computer or smartphone? Do your marriage a favor and plan a “technology timeout” on a regular basis. Set a time when everyone puts away the phones, computers, Xboxes and other devices so you can focus on one another. This is a good habit to develop early in your marriage.
- Never allow yourself to be alone with someone of the opposite sex! No lunches, coffee, meetings, drive time…nothing! This serves two purposes: First, you never place yourself in a vulnerable position to be tempted. Second, you never give the appearance of evil. A perfect example of this happened at my home this week! Texas is in the midst of a very early freeze – it’s crazy cold! And with the cold weather comes a myriad of “cold weather problems!” Unfortunately for us one such problem is a critter of some kind attempting to stay warm in our attic! Tonight James called our exterminator and he was kind enough to come after-hours and check out the problem. James had to be at church and told the man he wouldn’t be home. To my surprise, when he arrived he had his wife with him! He told me that she always comes on calls when he is visiting a single woman at night! Wow! Now that’s protecting your marriage!
- Social Media – There are many different types of social media today – Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram – and each one provides a potential snare for a healthy marriage. This makes it imperative that you and your spouse give one another access to all of these accounts. This means knowing passwords to all social media accounts. It is too easy for a plutonic relationship via email or Facebook to turn into something more and accountability helps douse the fires of temptation. Spouses should be able to read or check all technology and social media at all times! There should be nothing to hide anyway so this shouldn’t be a big deal!
- Spend time together – Find activities that you and your spouse enjoy doing together and make time to do them! This can be anything from watching sports, working on the house, working out or watching a favorite television show. The important thing is that you enjoy being together and preferably without the kids! Be open to trying new things too. I was not a baseball fan at all when we got married but after watching many games with James I love my Texas Rangers! And I will even watch it when he’s not home!!