Simplify, simplify, simplify! That is what our blog is all about; how can we simplify every area of our life with particular interest in the areas of spirituality, family, home and recreation. Of course such an endeavor means taking on a wide variety of topics including some which are more “interesting” than others. Today we want to take a moment to look at how we might create greater love and intimacy in our marriage!
In order to simplify one’s “love” life we must take a look at the basic relational needs of both men and women. Men have a need to be respected and honored by their wife. Women have a need to be loved and adored by their husband. These needs are outlined quite perfectly in Ephesians 5, a book in the Bible’s New Testament. If a man is respected and a woman loved the foundation is laid for the physical gratification sex was meant to be.
So how do we lay a simple foundation for great physical intimacy in marriage?
- Love her from afar — Love your wife throughout the day by sending texts which tell her how you feel about her. Let her know you love, appreciate and desire her. Let your wife know why you feel these things. Call her at lunch and send an email in which you share your inmost thoughts about her.
- Respect…it’s a process — If you treat your husband like “another child to raise” don’t expect him to act like a man in the bedroom. Men treated like boys by their wife tend to act like children in the marital relationship. Children are often selfish and narcissistic and no wife wants that from a husband especially in the bedroom. So honor, respect, and revere your husband. Ascribe worth to him! Let him know how much you look up to him. Praise his strengths and emphasize them through text, email, and spoken word. Let him know you need him and are blessed to have him in your life.
- Believe What You See and Hear — Believe that you are sexy, beautiful and interesting. Believe that you are respected, honored and appreciated. If your husband or wife communicates such things then show love and respect by taking your spouse at their word! Deeply receive these things and be the person your spouse believes you to be. The simple way to better marital sex is through the road of mutual love and respect; if your spouse shows you these things then soak it in and enjoy the person they believe you to be!
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