I love food. I mean it! I really, really love food! My affair with food is borderline addiction and sin. I love Italian, Mexican, Chinese and American food. I will give just about any nationality their opportunity to inspire me with their cuisine. So, when I got married and began building a home with Kim, one of my “big ticket” desires was to have great, prepared, planned meal times. Kim is no foodie like her husband and what follows is how she made peace at the dinner table with her foodie!
I married a woman who truly eats to live. Don’t get me wrong, Kim likes food, but she can hardly be said to love it. She appreciates food in its many and varied varieties but (and you foodies understand what I mean by this) simply misses the opportunity to relish it. So, early in our marriage, we were left with a bit of a dilemma when it came to dinner time. I wanted planned, prepared gourmet meals and she was willing to “fly by the seat of her pants” and make last minute ideas for our evening cuisine. Our solution is a process which I believe can be a blessing for every home.
How a “Foodie” and a “eat to live” spouse learned to dine together:
- Mushroom the love — The spouse who simply “eats to live” needs to be openminded and try foods he or she hasn’t before liked or chosen to try. Kim never liked mushrooms before she met me. I on the other hand love mushrooms and could eat them on just about everything. With a little encouragement she began to try these little delicacies and now even eats them on her pizza. If you want mealtime peace with a “foodie” you must be open to trying new things; you might be surprised and find new foods to enjoy. Your foodie spouse will struggle if you deny him the adventure which exotic foods provide.
- Slow, slow, slow down! — A Foodie likes to savor a meal. Not long into our marriage Kim realized I enjoy breakfast food but it wasn’t enough for me to simply eat the wonderful food she prepared. I wanted to enjoy it over long conversation and a few cups of coffee. Of course such luxury is seldom found in a house with two toddlers but such breakfast time is still a personal paradise and Kim still finds ways to graciously indulge me when she can. Foodies love to linger and relish good food and if you want peace at the table you must occasionally indulge them of this simple pleasure.
- Embrace “Le Sandwich” — As a foodie I never had much love for the sandwich. However, I have learned that my non-foodie wife occasionally needs me to be in love with it. Foodie, you do not need a full, planned, four course dinner every night. From time to time we all must embrace the sandwich and a side of Pringles; to do so may be one of the greatest ways you will love your spouse this week! For dinnertime peace to be had we all must give and take a little. If your non-foodie spouse can indulge you a long breakfast and some meal planning you can, on occasion, find the pleasure in a simple bologna sandwich.
- I Love It When a Plan Comes Together — Meal planning is something Kim and I are working together to make a part of our life. Meal planning isn’t just a way to eat better but also a way to eat healthier. Our friend Crystal Lopez has a great meal planning tool on her website and I highly recommend you sign up for her newsletter and receive it. I have also included a link to her weekly meal plan ideas and meal planning Ebook at the conclusion of this article. Planning meals eliminates the stress and confusion mealtime can often bring. Planning also helps to curb last minute “impulse eating out” so your pocketbook as well as your waistline will thank you as you plan.
- Morning Has Broken — I know my wife loves me! Would you like to know how? This woman, who cares for two toddlers, keeps house, works a part time job and takes great care of me, prepares a wonderful breakfast for her foodie husband…everyday! Men all over our church are jealous of the meal I eat at the start of my day! Kim has learned the huge blessing this is for me and I feel loved ever time the fork full of breakfast goodness touches my lips! Just know that we foodies appreciate the efforts our non foodie spouse makes to love us through our belly!
I love my wife and appreciate all she does to love her foodie husband. Together we are learning to love one another in many new ways as our relationship continues to grow and evolve. They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and she has learned how true this is when it comes to her own husband! And as a foodie I have learned to love her back by appreciating how simple food can be as well!
Praying for Dinner table peace for you today!
Resources on Meal Planning: